Ghosts are Real, just ask the kids!

This may be a little off topic, or maybe not, but I have been thinking lately about my youth. I have done thinking since me and my family have a scary movie night every Saturday night about the fact that my kids don't scare easily. They have been watching scary movies since they were babies. Overall tho, they do not have nightmares, no night terrors either. They do not rush to sleep in our bed after watching a scary movie. Each one of them has a favorite tho. Each one of them also has a movie that scares them also.

Now back to my childhood. My mother didn't shelter me from scary movies either. As a matter of fact on Friday the 13th we would celebrate that as a holiday watching scary movies all day and night.I rarely had any nightmares, and to this day I still do that with my own kids, and we enjoy it very much. Now thinking back, remembering I recall what was the movie that scared me so much when I was a child, sent chills up my spine, and I still get tingly when I hear the song.
POLTERGUEST

I still love that movie, and around Halloween when they try playing all that scary music, and that song comes on.... it still sends a little tingle down my spine. I seen spirits, and I still do. In a way I could relate. None of my relatives got eaten by a tree and a vortex did not appear in my room. But the fuzzy tv when I was young. I would watch it and see things moving around, like it was talking to me. I did that before I seen the movie, and of course afterwards. I wasn't afraid of the spirits I seen because it was just part of life. My mom didn't discourage it, because she let my imagination run free, she didn't always believe what I said I seen, but on occasions she did. I told her about my grandfathers funeral, how I was there, I was running around, and she agreed with me, because I described it to a tee, even tho I wasn't born until a couple of years after my grandfather died.

Scary movies are great, and I believe kids can handle them if you just watch with them, and let them know the difference between real life and what is not real. Altho ghosts are real. They are around us even when we don't realize they are. Passing on doesn't mean gone, and energy doesn't die. When my kids ask if ghosts are real, I ask them if they believe we live on somehow after we die. The answer being yes, well then yes, they are as real as you and me. They are like you and me, just without the bodies. Yea we see them with bodies, or as lights, or as a dream where they speak to us. They are real. Never doubt that, but a majority they are not here to scare us.Most of the time they would just like to tell us something.

If your child ever sees something and you just cannot explain it, sometimes there just may be something to it. Listen to your children, and let them know you believe them. If they are afraid then comfort them and let them know there isn't anything to be afraid of.

The true meaning of family time

Family time is very valuable. It was everything back in Druid times too. In the tribes, they were family. The elders held a very high place in the tribe, and the young ones listened and respected their elders. It really did take a tribe to raise a child back then. The women helped young girls with becoming women. The men helped to teach the boys to hunt and fish, to become men.

Now days it's not always that way. Elders blame parents, parents blame kids. I don't think it's really anyone's fault as much as the lifestyles of today. Everyone is busy, and when they are not busy it just seems like family time is too much of a hassle. I have seen that happen. Not being bad parents or anything, but really not noticing that they are not spending much time with their children. They use the excuse of no free time. That there is not enough time in the day.

These are the times that the children will remember tho. Yes, you will have free time, eventually they will grow, and give you more free time then you know what to do with. They will have their kids, and hopefully you have spent enough time and taught them how important that if for both the children and for the parents of the children.

At my home we have scary movie night. The importance of that goes back to my childhood. When I was younger Elvira was on Saturday nights at midnight. My family would either order pizza, make pizza, or we would have sandwiches and chips. We then would have popcorn, candy, chips while we watched scary movies all together and normally we watched whatever scary movie would be on after Elvira too. It stands out in my memory, it was fun, and my mom who worked alot always sat and watched it with us. On Friday the 13th we would get a bunch of scary movies, and watch them starting during the day all through the night. Recently my mom was telling my boys about it, and my boys got excited, because they knew Friday the 13th was coming up, and I had the whole Friday the 13th movie series lined up.

Every Saturday night we do scary movie night. Yea half the kids fall asleep, and some movies suck. The fact is that they know when Saturday night comes, it's something that they will never get grounded from. It's something they can count on. It's a time where even if they have frustrated the adults all of that will stop for a period of time and it will be a nice time with the family.

I know my kids will remember things we done together. Just like I have, they too will have kids and with their kids there will be scary movie night. They will remember not so much the movies themselves, but the time we have together. The fact that on Saturday nights they got to eat in the living room, and sleep on the couches, and the floor in the living room. They will fall asleep with their family, enjoying snacks, and hopefully a good movie.

We do alot with our kids. Picnics, camping out, scary movies. They go with us almost everywhere. Time may or may not be enjoyable. It will be remembered tho. They will know that each and everyone of them always will be special, and that we love them. Long after we are gone there will be memories shared about our time together. In a way our "Tribe" will live on. There will be times when they get on our nerves, but we will deal with it, not telling them to go away. Not ignoring their cries for attention.

Hopefully this will make a difference. A difference in the way they act and a difference in the way they treat people. Best of all it will make a difference in the way their kids are raised, and it will continue for generations to come.